EXPAT LIFE
Relocating to a new country is exciting and thrilling. It is a life full of new opportunities and adventures. But unfortunately, the inevitable ‘culture shock’ can stall this adventurous journey, leaving you feeling homesick and depressed. Nothing may seem intuitive, easy to understand and overall, you may find it hard to communicate effectively. It can become exhausting and tiring to reconstruct a whole new daily living with so many unfamiliar aspects.
At MindAid we understand this state of confusion and frustration. We help you through this adjustment period firstly by giving you a safe and confidential space to freely express your frustrations and irritations. Help you navigate through your various mental blocks and emotional shocks. Slowly grow your comfort and confidence to get you back to exploring and welcoming new opportunities.
TRAILING SPOUSES
Trailing spouses are expats who give up his/her career to support their partner’s careers. Till date, majority of the trailing spouses are women. Although most trailing spouses view this relocation as an opportunity to reinvent themselves and lead a new life, even the most resilient of them all, sooner or later, are hit by ‘culture shock’.
For tailing spouses it is several folds of loss. Apart from the loss of their careers, loss of their social network and family support system, they also lose their self-confidence and identity. This may be worsened by the sudden financial dependency which usually leads to the feeling of worthlessness. If this is state of mind is not addressed promptly, it may lead to depression, lack of motivation and the interest to pursue anything.
Change the way you respond to the world
and feel the ripple effect around you.
EXPATS
Relocating to a new country is exciting and thrilling. It is a life full of new opportunities and adventures. But unfortunately, the inevitable ‘culture shock’ can stall this adventurous journey, leaving you feeling homesick and depressed. Nothing may seem intuitive, easy to understand and overall, you may find it hard to communicate effectively. It can become exhausting and tiring to reconstruct a whole new daily living with so many unfamiliar aspects.
At MindAid we understand this state of confusion and frustration. We help you through this adjustment period firstly by giving you a safe and confidential space to freely express your frustrations and irritations. Help you navigate through your various mental blocks and emotional shocks. Slowly grow your comfort and confidence to get you back to exploring and welcoming new opportunities.
TRAILING SPOUSES
Trailing spouses are expats who give up his/her career to support their partner’s careers. Till date, majority of the trailing spouses are women. Although most trailing spouses view this relocation as an opportunity to reinvent themselves and lead a new life, even the most resilient of them all, sooner or later, are hit by ‘culture shock’.
For tailing spouses it is several folds of loss. Apart from the loss of their careers, loss of their social network and family support system, they also lose their self-confidence and identity. This may be worsened by the sudden financial dependency which usually leads to the feeling of worthlessness. If this is state of mind is not addressed promptly, it may lead to depression, lack of motivation and the interest to pursue anything.
Common Issues that
Affect the Mental Health of Expats
1. Culture Shock
Cultural norms are collectively understood cultural cues such as attitudes, expectations, considerations, language, behaviour etc. It is from where people draw their reference to understand the world around them and behave accordingly. You don’t actively pay attention to these as they are unspoken norms. They are inherent to you for being born into that culture or having adapted to it over a long period of time.
In a new country, you become more aware of these cultural differences because they are different from your cultural norm. You may not literally be shocked, but this act of feeling disoriented leading to irritation and frustration, inability to understand, communicate and function effectively. This is culture shock.
Unfortunately, cultural shock is inevitable with any international relocation. But the good news is that it is situational and can be handled by proactively addressing the challenges, the feelings you may encounter and so slowly minimise the difficulty of adjusting.
Culture shock is the
inability to make sense
of the new world.
2. Loss of Self-Identity
Many women derive their self-worth from their education or profession. Their job gives them their identity, self-esteem and also financial independence. Therefore, the loss that comes with giving up one’s career is often insurmountable and overwhelming.
Although most trailing spouses give up their careers by choice, they do not anticipate what this will mean once the excitement of exploring a new destination (honeymoon period) wears off and they are unable to find a job that suits their experience, expertise or expectations.
Unfortunately, if a trailing spouse does not receive the support and guidance she needs to reinvent herself, she may find herself living in will with resentment and regret. This could have adverse effects on her relationship with her partner and children.
Loss of identity is
the loss of Self-Worth & Value
3. Unable to Talk About Your Problems
Women deal with and solve many of their problems by sharing it with friends and family. An international move is seen as a major opportunity for the whole family and not “sticking it out” for the benefit of all is seen as weakness. Women also feel selfish and guilty to voice what they are going through instead of being the pillar of support for their family in this new environment.
They blame themselves for their situation and inability to make something of their life in this new country. But a little awareness will show them that the problem is not them but the situation they are in. With a little guidance they can re-invent themselves and live more secure and fulfilling lives.
Not talking about your
sadness will leave you believing
that the problem is you
Know when you need to ask for support and guidance…
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Sense of wasting your life and living in limbo
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Feeling stuck and frustrated as you can’t see a way out
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Easily irritable and always on edge
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Frequent spells of loneliness, helplessness and sadness
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Paranoia that the locals are against you or don’t like you
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Critical of local people, culture, and customs
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Excessive concern over appearing proper and correct to fit in
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Oversensitivity and overreaction to minor difficulties
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Over eating and sleeping long hours to just pass time
MindAid for Expat Women
At MindAid I work with expat women individually and in group sessions.
Private Sessions
Private sessions work best when the problem or issue is more of a personal matter. When you want to bring about change in yourself or your relationship. When you want to reinvent yourself, to find purpose and self-worth. When you want to be heard and understood. Schedule a free session and experience the lightness of expressing your thoughts and feelings openly.
Group Sessions
Group sessions are very beneficial to realise that you are not alone in this phase of your life. It also gives you an opportunity to learn how other women have navigated challenging situations. These sessions are a safe place for you to express your feelings and emotions uninhibitedly and receive understanding and empathy. Usually, the topics are generic yet specific to living in Switzerland- cultural shocks, psychological shock, loss of self and identity, loss of social connections, motherhood problems, relationship problems, etc.
Areas of Help
Expat Life
Re-inventing oneself is all about rediscovering. It is probably the most empowering experience you would ever encounter. It will give you insight into your strengths and capabilities. It will highlight the areas that need attention and areas that need enhancing. It is a wonderful opportunity to choose to live a life you desire and have a focused plan how to get it. Find out what you enjoy doing and let’s get you doing it.
Re-inventing is like second birth, a second chance to live life as per what you want.
Relationships
Success of a relationship heavily relies on you knowing what you need to feel secure, happy and content. Find out what is that you are not getting yourself first before trying to fix something in your partner. Relationships are built on each other’s strength, confidence and respect. Discover yourself and you will rediscover the spark in your relationship.
New Ventures
As a trailing partner you may not find the job you are looking for. Even when sometimes you are ready to take up anything available you simply may be over qualified. Look at this phase of your life as an opportunity in disguise. It is probably the right time to do something on your own.
If, this is the case and you think you have an idea you would like to explore, discuss its viability and sustainability, let’s talk. Sometimes an idea may just be good as an idea but sometimes it may be the next best thing everyone is looking for. It is difficult for a friend or a spouse not to show you support or think an idea is not worth your education or expertise. But this is your chance to break the mould and pursue something you always wanted to do.
Exploring an idea is like candy for your brains. It gets excited and rejuvenated. Take the time to enjoy the exploration process, it will prove to be refreshing and worth it someway or another, always. It may lead you down a path you never thought possible.